Circle of Healthy, Happy Friends

Every year, our circle of friends venture to Higgins Lake, Michigan to celebrate Labor Day weekend.  More so this year than any other, I was moved by how much we have grown over the years to become the people we are today.  While so much has changed since college, our values remain the foundation, and from that, we have each in our own right built what stands a unique individual. Even with life's changes and our individual molding, it amazes me that we still fit rather perfectly - together. 

There are without a doubt many traits that make our group of friends great.  However, during this most recent gathering, I was awestruck in our shared belief to actively pursue a healthy lifestyle.  While we each have our own definition as to what living a healthy lifestyle looks like, we seem to naturally respect each others' beliefs as it's all towards the same end goal.   Even more so, we support each other - and that support was reflected time and time again during our weekend together.

I was overcome with so many moments of pride - here we are a group of twenty-something year-olds (okay, okay, all closer to thirty) away together for "vacation", yet we all packed food and ate as if we were at a "Get My Body Back" Bootcamp Retreat.  Other than alcohol consumption, we were all pretty much clean eating saints.  Especially us girls.  Not only did we eat clean, the entire time, we moved our butts.  We got in our morning runs and made for an upper body adventure with the kayaks! Us girls made the kitchen a creative cooking studio - and with contribution from the guys - we whipped up some amazingly fresh, mouthwatering meals.   

It was the ultimate weekend away; satisfied bellies, achy muscles, loads of laughs, a little gossip, blue skies, bluer water, sun-kissed faces, and a bottle of memories to remind us just how blessed we are to have so many like-minded souls in our corner. 

Mr & Mrs. soaking in the sun's rays and enjoying the beauties of Pure Michigan.

The girls. Without any prior arrangement, we all packed food that made for the perfect combination. It was pretty impressive!

Below is just a sampling of our many tastings! Fresh was the underlying theme! 

 

Us Girls venturing out on the kayaks while the guys sailed... 

Does it get any better than this? Soaking it all in!

"It was the ultimate weekend away; satisfied bellies, achy muscles, loads of laughs, a little gossip, blue skies, bluer water, sun-kissed faces, and a bottle of memories to remind us just how blessed we are to have so many like-minded souls in our corner." -  MSF 

Keep it Clean & Enjoy the Ride,
Mrs. Skinny Fat

Running in the Rain

There are some days when I only have a short time frame to get my workouts in.  This occurred again over the weekend, and during this same window of opportunity, a moderate to a heavy rainstorm was moving its way in.  Typically, this would be no issue as I have my treadmill to rely on - but being out of town as I was my options were rather limited; go outside and run in the rain or miss a work out.  I chose to run.

No more than five minutes into my five mile route, the rain picked up from a light drizzle to near downpour.  With each step I was treated with a splash in return.  My shoes were soggy, my clothes drenched and I still had four miles left to go.  To my sincere surprise, I was loving every "soaking" minute of it.  It felt unbelievably refreshing!  Not just physically, but something deep within was ignited...I kind of felt like a kid again.  There was smile on my face, a softness in my step, and a quickness in my pace.  I felt good...light...happy. 

I will forever have a different outlook when the clouds darken a bit on run days.  In fact, I might even prefer the rainy days as it's not nearly often enough that the kid in you has a chance to come out and play.  

Soaked from head to toe and loving every minute of it!

Of course the kid in me demands to wear these
rain boots for the rest of the rainy day!

Keep it Clean & ENJOY the Ride,
Mrs. Skinny Fat

Photos courtesy of my gal pal, Dia, who was a true champ in bearing the rain with me to snap some pics!

My Breakfast Staple: Glorified Oats & Egg Whites

It wasn't until recently that I connected the dots of how important it is to combine the complex carb with the lean protein (in this case, rolled oats and egg whites).  Mind you, I have read dozens of books and magazines that listed it as a bullet point time and time again -- but I think I just subconsciously ignored it because maybe it seemed like "more work" to me to not only think about clean foods but also combining the right foods.  

I use to just eat the oatmeal or just the eggs for breakfast but never together...that is until the dots finally connected. It was my chiropractor (you never know who is going to inspire you!) who finally drilled it in my brain when he asked me how much protein I was getting a day.  I didn't have a clue how to answer.  Then he said, "You are already doing the work...eating clean, working out - now you need to rely on science to take you to the next level.  What if you could double your success by just combining the right foods?"  It was a total "Ah HA" moment for me!  By combining lean protein and complex carbs at each meal, it helps you slow down the carb-to-fat conversion in your body - in other words, it keeps you feeling full and satisfied between meals.  But also for me, it helps ensure I am getting enough protein throughout the day when I am intentionally making it a part of every meal.   

Now I tend to rely on my oats and egg whites for breakfast the majority of the time.  What I love about both is - in my opinion - you can't mess them up!  I will make a large pot of oatmeal at the beginning of the week so it's ready to go each morning by simply heating it up (sometimes I even like it cold!).  I just take rolled oats (buy it in bulk at the health food store), add water (sometimes I will do half water and half soy milk), add some ground cinnamon, handful of organic raisins,  handful of slivered raw almonds, throw in the chia seeds and wheat germ, cook it on the stove top for 3 to 5  minutes depending on how much I am making and I am good to go for the week.  Sometimes instead of raisins I will do chopped apples...or  I might leave out the fruit while cooking and instead add it on top before serving - such as a handful of fresh berries or half of a peach.  I also now love the combination of the oats and egg whites mixed together...is that weird? 

Pot of Glorified Oatmeal Made & Ready for the Week

The Secret to Successful Clean Eating is Making Sure You Combine
Your Oatmeal (Complex Carb) with the Egg Whites (Lean Protein). 

Secret to Success: No Excuses!

In 2007, when I first changed my eating habits, I decided to go "Cold Turkey", as they say, for 6 months and fully adopted the vegan lifestyle.  During that time, I was so cautious of everything I ate ... and  most difficult - surprisingly - was that I completely gave up alcohol (this was hard for me because I loved enjoying a glass of wine with dinner, weekends, with my husband, etc!).  At my smallest, I weighed in at 115.  It's so odd reflecting on how I felt then because I felt soooo "skinny-fat" - I didn't work out so while yes, skinny (barely nothing), I was such a weakling. And everything felt so flabby. 

I then discovered clean eating - and I was awe-struck by its principles.  I felt like I had been handed a gift - everything just made so much sense! Eating real foods...- you know the ones that come from the earth - all the time - novel idea!  Over time (three years) I slowly started to incorporate foods back into my diet such as seafood, venison, quality eggs, and organic cheese (in moderation).  During this time, my passion truly ignited for clean eating and I can't seem to learn enough on this topic. 

Even though, I was very intentional and disciplined with my eating - I still was Skinny-Fat true and true.  I wasn't dedicated to a workout regimen.  On that front, I could seem to come up with every excuse under the sun as to why I wasn't going to workout.  Even though - when I did, it felt so good!  I love running (when I actually did it) - so I would run sometimes - even did several 1/2 marathons (ill prepared I should add), and then I decided to join aerobics (it lasted a couple weeks), I tried bootcamp - hmm it was okay, and then there was yoga...loved yoga but still...it only lasted a month.  With each of these down periods, I would constantly beat myself up.  Complaining always (mostly inside my head) about the way my clothes fit, or dreading getting in the bikini, dress shopping, etc.  I was a size 4 - weighing anywhere from 125 - 130 over this time  - abiding by clean eating principles 80% of the time (although socially drinking in moderation).  I say 80% because I was/am still learning - and sometimes was (who am I kidding - still am) tricked by flashy marketing on packaging... (more to come on this at a later time).  I am slowly learning that just because it's sold in a Health Food Store, does not make it Clean!

Finally, in June of 2011, I got a personal trainer.  Someone I aspired to be - she wasn't skinny fat but TRULY SKINNY & FIT.  She put together a workout regimen for me which only called for a band and a mat.  But to meet my goals, it required "No Excuses"  - no matter what.  The schedule calls for 4 days of running (anywhere from 3 to 5 miles), 2 days of strength training, and a rest day.  I am able to complete everything right at home (outside), and only see her every 3 weeks for a new strength training program.  It's been the best thing I have ever done for myself.  I have not allowed myself to miss a workout - even when it's the LAST thing I want to do - I force myself to tie up those laces and get it over with. Time after time, what I find, is about 5 minutes (often times less) into the workout, my whole attitude shifts...and I start feel, pardon my choice of words, like a badass.  Truly!  I journal my workouts and all over my calendar you'll see the words, "No EXCUSES" - and when I first started, I had a sticky notes every where to remind me that no matter how much I wanted to - I'm wasn't getting out it!

Since I have incorporated workouts into my clean eating lifestyle, I finally feel like I am on the path to ridding the fat and finding the fit....for good! I have lost 3 inches from around my waist and have lost 3lbs!  It's amazing - I get to eat all day long (5 to 6 small meals a day), and I'm in charge of molding my body to "perfection" -  and this so called perfection is defined by me.  Yep, just me.

It's a journey - and what I have learned is to be truly skinny and fit (in other words, healthy, happy & fit)- doesn't happen overnight. Adding muscle is a beautiful thing...but it's a process.  Quick fixes will only get you to be skinny fat - a place I have been far too long.

 

If you haven't already, commit to a No Excuses attitude - whether it's about eating changes or working out.  And remember,  change will happen but it's baby steps my friends! 

Mrs. Skinny Fit running a 1/2 marathon in Miami March 2011.
It was torture because I was so ill prepared!
Can't wait to get a race on the calendar now
that I have been so committed to a workout regimen! 

 

Mr. Miles - my new running partner. 
He's up for the challenge - never lets me down!

 

Mrs. Skinny Fat & Mr. Miles - These past few months, I have had the confidence to try "new" workout activities. Kayaking is one my favorite things to do!

Me. Healthy. Happy. Fit.

My name is Tonya aka Mrs. Skinny Fat. I’m a 28-year-old wife, young marketing/pr professional, and mom to three furry four legged friends (1 kitty, Pinot, and 2 pups, Wyatt & Miles). I’ve been what I consider “Skinny-Fat” all of my life. In other words, look “skinny” with clothes on to the average person but...reality underneath it all was much different. For as long as I can remember I have lacked the self-confidence to peal off the layers…and if I was in a situation that forced me to get in a bikini – well, let's just say I considered it torture. I’ve been on a quest to be healthy, happy, and fit for years now – but it wasn’t until recently that I really connected what that meant. The “stars have aligned” so to speak…and I have discovered that sharing my journey with friends truly feels like I am sharing a gift...inspiration and hard lessons learned for their own quest!

Why the Mrs. in Mrs. Skinny Fat?
My husband is truly my partner in all of this – and with that my role as a wife plays such a big part in my quest to be healthy, happy, and fit. I think of all of the times throughout years that my husband has - unfortunately - had to hear me rant about my gut, or my thunder thighs…or how fat my arms look in photos. Over and over again, he’s watched me start a diet regimen – make a little progress – binge – and fall flat on my face. Lack of confidence is such a turn-off for me and yet I USE to put him through it everyday. While I’m blessed to have a partner who loves me just the way I am…I (all of us for that matter) need to LOVE who we are just as much. It's such a good feeling that I'm finally making great strides up this mountain!!

A Look Back
It's important to note that since my husband and I met in 2004 - I have already put him through quite the ringer in my due diligence to figure out just who I am. It was a constant...diet - binge - fail - diet - binge - fail...over and over again! In 2007, I was actually "saved" by an illness in which I was forced to turn to food (eating the right things) to feel better. My doctor was adamant on cleaning up my diet so my body could process what I was taking in and although I fought this idea for quite some time I finally caved and went fully vegan...(during this time Skinny Bitch was my Bible) Man, did my diet do a 180. This was really hard for my husband to accept but he said he would give me a six month trial to embrace the vegan lifestyle and if it truly made me feel better than he would accept it. Well, as you might expect...my health climbed and I felt amazing.

Today, I still practice many Skinny Bitch habits but more importantly I focus on eating clean (Thank you Tosca Reno and Oxygen Mag). Not only did my husband accept my new way of cooking - and eating - and my new found love for the health food store, he took part in it - eating for the most part as I do and just splurging on his own terms. Due to this major lifestyle change, we both reaped the benefits and physically changed immensely - both losing ~20 lbs since 2007. Disclaimer: we certainly aren't perfect...but it was an extreme change in behavior from the girl he met: a farmer's daughter who shared in his love of steaks and Mcdonalds - neither of which I have touched since July 2007. But here I am, yes certainly healthier and a whole lot smarter in terms of food choices…

Throughout this journey I have become extremely passionate about eating clean – and I seem to discover something new every day. I’m excited to finally have an outlet to share everything I have learned and all the new things that come my way. This blogs for anyone who’s looking to make some small changes in their life – ones that could - no will - lead to huge results – mentally, physically, and emotionally.

I hope that you will find this blog insightful and inspiring. Please join me down this path to being healthy, happy, and fit. In other words, let’s rid the fat and find the fit -for good.

Mr. & Mrs. when we first met in 2004.  I am 5'4 and in this pic weighed 145lbs -
My lifestyle consisted of dieting...binging...failing...repeating! 
I tried everything including South Beach, Atkins, Grapefruit, Cabbage Soup...everything!! 

Mr. & Mrs. in 2007 - about 6 months after adopting "Vegan" lifestyle. 
Weighed 120lbs -  did not work out (just walks here and there)... "Skinny Fat" at its best!

Mr. & Mrs. in May of 2011 - Weigh 125 -  Living a clean eating
lifestyle of the most part - giving into life's indulgences in moderation
slowly getting on a workout regimen... 

Mr. & Mrs. July 2011 - Eating Clean and working hard on the fitness...
Feeling so much stronger and starting to finally build muscle and rid the fat!